Dear Decade,

As I am sitting here writing this last blog post of 2019, I am in awe at how far I have come in this decade. Honestly, even in the last few months of this almost expired year, life has taken me in, and has given me lessons that I never thought could be taught to me. For these lessons I feel blessed, because no matter how many times I had to try and fail, I still tried. And child, don’t even get me started on the L’s. No amount of losses that I THOUGHT I took could ever compare to each lesson I learned that will mold and shape my future. That in itself has made me all the more grateful.

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At the start of this year, I had everything that I thought was making me happy. Ya’ll know… the usual things like money, fast friends, etc. If you guys have any older spiritual influences in your life like I do (Hey Saints!), then you will have heard the expression, “The devil comes dressed as everything you’ve ever wanted.” And sure enough, he did. My personal demons at the start of this year had me in such a dark place. I was feeding off of my own false happiness because at the time, it ‘looked’ like what I thought I was missing. And then I was self-diagnosed with a spiritual food poisoning. I was sick to say the least. Here’s a lesson for you, kids: Happiness fades, but joy is forever. The happiness that I had become to know and love so well, would often be tampered with by those things and people who were responsible for giving it to me in the first place! My faith was tested so many times, and in full honesty, it also wavered. But believe me when I say that throughout the rest of the year, I became to be the prodigal daughter. Faith can be renewed!

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At the beginning of 2019, I think I was ashamed to be my true self. I would shut down my own ideas before giving them the slightest chance to flourish, and all because I was fearful! Comparison is truly the thief of joy. Here’s a news flash for you friends; do whatever feels right to you and makes you happy. You will never truly live your own life if you are living to meet the expectations of others. Shall I go on with even more content for this topic?

I had the degree. I had the job that was paying me more than enough, and yet I was miserable. I took a leap of faith to find a job that would better suit my education. I am not even ashamed to say that I recently quit that job too, because I have never been happier! I was super afraid to be unemployed, but I think I was even more afraid to hear the opinions about me, a college graduate with no job. And then I realized that I was the author of my own life, and decided that my joy was worth far more than the opinions of others.

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I started this blog while at my last place of employment, and it gave me the freedom I had been missing for so long. Although media and writing has been a silent passion of mine, it is now coming out loud and clear, love. Being able to build my own platforms that allow me to do whatever I feel represents me the most was my biggest aha moment of this past decade. I am literally doing what I LOVE. I had a professor in college who had a lecture about life. Topic: “You can literally do whatever the fuck you want. Literally.” It was a cool lecture back then, but it’s really hitting hard right now. After expounding on my first passion, which is writing, I began hosting my podcast. It is currently streaming on Anchor, Spotify, and Apple Podcasts. I am also now moving into music management, but I will have to keep those details for later on in 2020.

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Growing up, myself and others alike were always force-fed this asinine idea that showing the slightest bit of personality on Al Gore’s internet would ban you from making any type of living. I wish that whoever stumbles upon this article can somehow imagine me rolling my eyes at this point. In the latter part of this decade, as well as the future moving forward, so many people made a name for themselves by just truly being who they are. Who knew that sharing your personality with complete strangers on the internet could possibly make you a millionaire? Well now I am claiming that next spot!

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Each obstacle in 2019 that was overcome, has now become my blueprint for 2020. I have learned to speak life over any situation, whether good or bad.

In lieu of me sharing my own manifestations with you all, maybe this blog post will inspire someone to do what they have feared for so long. Every person in life will go through some type of hard time, or experience some type of struggle. The differences in each of us will determine whether we will go through it, or grow through it. I encourage you to grow! Make every day of this new year and new decade be everything YOU need it to be.

Want to stay connected with me? Follow me on Instagram @myrichambition and Facebook @ My Rich Ambition

What College Didn’t Teach You: The Post-Graduation Journey

College may have been the best time of your life, or it could have been one of your biggest challenges to date. You met some really cool people along the way, and yet, there were those who you also had to leave behind. This day didn’t come by surprise! You dedicated your time and hard work FOR YEARS, and today is the last day of your college career. You hair is laid for life, or your haircut is on fleek (hey fellas!) Numerous clips of you shaking the hand of your institution’s president, in exchange for that incredibly expensive piece of paper, have played in your head repeatedly. Everything up to this moment has unfolded exactly how you planned. Your tassel has now been moved from right to left. Your degree is secured, and you’re free to party until the sun comes back up. The sun just came up… so now what?

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Maybe you will go back to school? More degrees, more money, or so they say. I’m still doing research on that. There are those of us who will be gainfully employed only days after graduation. (Pat yourself on the back, great job!) There will even be a select few of us who will get to travel abroad, and indulge in perfect freedom before having to dive into the real world of adulting. And then finally, there are those of you like myself: young and just trying to figure things out.

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Up until about 30 seconds before I graduated, I felt like I had everything under control. I have always been the person who operates according to plan. And then college graduation approached, and every plan went out the window. My job at the time was paying me pretty decent, and even though it wasn’t in my field, I stayed with it for a while. I didn’t have a solid next move.

I told my parents approaching graduation that I just wanted to be genuinely happy and financially stable no matter what I did next. There were a lot of days that I was mentally unhealthy during the end of my senior year, and I feel that at this time, living my best semi-unstructured life is working for me. Reaching a higher place in life is a top priority, and I am still actively looking for jobs in my field. I am also chasing my dreams by hosting this blog as well as a podcast. As of now I’m happy. Working towards building a greater financial stability. But happy. And eventually, I will land that job. Speak things into existence kids, it works.

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You see, kids, college prepares you for many, many things. We learn lessons about our future occupations, while gaining a comprehensive outlook on this well-rounded education. But no amount of school work will prepare you for the real life lessons you get from college. All the math equations in the world couldn’t help you figure out why you’re short on the rent this month. Or why all of those sure fire resume building tips still haven’t landed you a job yet.

College taught me to never give up. Ever. So what you don’t have that office job you set your heart on. Or the internship you held each summer didn’t land you the job you thought would surely be yours. No testimony without a test right? You have so much life to live. And when it feels like you haven’t done enough, just remember you haven’t been grown long enough yet. Keep swimming.

Alexis Crawford: May You Rest In Peace

My heart is really hurting to write this post. First and foremost, rest in heaven to such a beautiful soul, Alexis Crawford. Although I did not know this young woman personally, she could have easily been me. Any life taken, especially one taken with malicious intent, is a life gone too soon.

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Earlier this week, I posted to my social media accounts that Alexis, 21 and a student of Clark Atlanta University, had been reported missing. According to the Atlanta Police Department, on October 27, Alexis filed a police report against her roommates boyfriend, Barron Brantley, 21, for making unwanted sexual advances towards her. This was only three days before her disappearance on October 30. Just short of a week later, her body was found in a park in DeKalb County. Both the roommate, and the roommates boyfriend, are now being held as the primary suspects in this case.

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I think we can all piece together what happened here, and that alone makes this even sadder. Police Chief, Erika Shields, provided information that not only were the two girls roommates, but they were also good friends. Her name is Jordyn Jones, and reportedly was the last person to see Alexis alive. She was also listed as a witness on the police report.

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My spirit is really troubled by an article I read, going further into detail about how all of this connects. You see, not only did Alexis experience these unwanted advances from the boyfriend, but she claimed to black out, and couldn’t remember what happened to her after Brantley followed her into her bedroom. Jones later saw Brantley standing shirtless, after repeatedly knocking on the bedroom door. He claims the two did not have sex.

Although the Atlanta Police Department did not specifically clarify, it was stated that either Jones or Brantley led them directly to where the body was. As of today, Brantley has been arrested, and charged with murder. Jones, 21, has a warrant out for her arrest, and is expected to be charged with murder as well. Sources say they think Jones has possibly fled Atlanta. This is a developing story, so more details will be sure to follow. Please keep this family, as well as the student body of Clark Atlanta University uplifted in this time of grief.

Who Ate All the Red Velvet?

This week I appear to be seamlessly taking L’s. I mean L’s across the board, y’all. Are you wondering which one hit me the hardest? This is kind of an emotional time in my life, so I feel your understanding and patience from wherever you are in the world, and I appreciate you. Y’all… Publix is SOLD OUT of their Premium Red Velvet Cake ice cream.

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I know, I know. Third world problems, right? WRONG! I channel every fiber of Drake’s whole being when I say, I’m upset. Seriously. Please don’t judge me, y’all. It’s just really that good. So good in fact, that last night I went to the four closest Publix stores near my house. (That last statement was made with absolutely no shame.) Let’s retract for a moment. I think I need to explain how this whole thing happened.

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Lunch Break: The Cheap Way

Bienvenidos! It’s Resha K. checking in here with some seriously helpful information. If you’re anything like me, then you’re always looking for the next best deal, okurr. Let’s talk about lunch break, the cheap way.

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Most of us average people get around 30 minutes to an hour for lunch, right? With that being said, no one wants to spend a bag on a meal that they can’t even savor. And in my best Sweet Brown voice, “Ain’t nobody got time for that”. Can I get an Amen? Don’t worry, Big Reesh has your back!

Did y’all know that you can eat lunch at your local Sam’s club… and for less than $5? GASP!

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Maybe I’m late, but it’s worth the read anyway.

Yeah, you read that correctly. Let me stop you in your tracks, because I know you’re probably thinking, “I don’t have a membership”. Guess what? You don’t need one! Eating at the cafe doesn’t require a membership, just your coins. I personally am a member, but I just recently discovered that the cafe was open to the public. My coworkers and I did the hard work and research for you guys on our lunch break, to get these cold, hard facts. You’re welcome.

For as little as $1.50 plus tax (Huntsville,AL), you can enjoy a Nathan’s hot dog with multiple condiments, along with a large choice of fountain drink choices. Other meal options include pizza, chicken bites, frozen yogurt, and occasional limited time offers.

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To each his own, honey, but my thin pockets and I will be dining at Sam’s Club for lunch break.

This was by no way an ad for Sam’s Club.

Truth Is I’m Tired

Y’all. Today is really one of those days. I’ve been nearly asleep at my cubicle all day long. Each hour of the 8 hours I worked was met with my own drowsiness and lack of motivation. And by now, you’re probably thinking, “Why would I care?”. Truthfully, I probably wouldn’t care either! (You can laugh now guys, I am)

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But seriously. I know someone, somewhere in the world is feeling exactly the same way. Having those Monday vibes on a Tuesday? Me too, friend! Sorry not sorry to say I’m about to play devils advocate for a moment: Let’s just try again tomorrow! What? Did y’all think I was coming to deliver a sermon about pushing through your tiredness?

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It’s okay to rest every now and again. Everything works with moderation, right? Maybe your body wants to rest, or in most cases, NEEDS to rest. Skip the gym tonight, sweetie. Put that chicken back in the freezer and order a pizza. You know you didn’t want to cook anyway!

It’s really okay y’all. The world will still need saving tomorrow.

Siri. Play Over It by Summer Walker.

Talk About It: Mental Health Awareness Day

Did you guys know that yesterday was Mental Health Awareness Day? If you didn’t, I heard you say, “No, but thanks”. Y’all are welcome, by the way. Now, let’s dive right into it, shall we?

Mental health impacts everyone you know, whether you realize it or not. Although it is something that we are familiar with, we have just barely scraped the surface. Protecting your mental peace is key. And we as a people, especially black people, need to get comfortable with the subject.

The black community is often last to jump on the bandwagon for recognizing mental health. And who can blame us, right? “What goes on in this house, stays in this house”, is so deeply rooted in our histories, that we accepted it because we didn’t know their was another option. I myself did not realize the impact it had, until going through my own cycles of depression. Yes, you heard me correctly. Even me too.

Often times, we automatically equate being mentally unhealthy to an obviously deep depression or suicidal thoughts. That’s not always the case. There is no “certain look” assigned to an unhealthy mind state. I personally would never consider taking my own life, but suicide linked to depression is a real thing y’all. Depression, period. It’s time we face it.

I’ve had times in my life where I didn’t want to comb my hair, talk to anyone, or leave my room at all. I’m also good at pretending to be okay, so generally, the people who were close to me in life didn’t notice anything was different about me. Because I didn’t ‘look’ like anything was wrong. I’m open about this, and unashamed because it’s okay to not be normal. What’s NOT okay is to not address it, and feel like you must be perpetually bogged down with whatever is affecting you mentally.

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Everything about you is special, even those things that you feel are meant to be your downfall. But y’all, in order to move forward, we must first make peace with those things that are meant to tear us down, and then conquer them! Mental illness is not a death sentence. It can be your super power! (Shout out to Kanye West) And you’re not alone! Did you know 1 in 5 adults experience mental illness in the United States? Some of those statistics include your favorite celebrities, too!

Let’s not limit mental health awareness to just one day, because it affects us daily. Never be ashamed to tell someone how you feel. Find a safe environment to release all your anxieties, I promise there is someone in the world willing to listen. If you are a person with a faith base, faith is your best friend. And will get you through a lot of trials, but you need a lot of faith! Don’t be afraid to see a therapist. Let’s let go of the stigmas associated with taking care of our mental state, because who better to care of you, than yourself? Am I right?

If you’re reading this, I’m there with you. And you’re not alone. Let’s be brave together, friends. One step at a time, we can conquer this subject of mental health together.

Talk About It: Is Fall Finally Making Its Arrival?

I don’t know about you guys, but sweetie… is fall fashionably late or what??? Ms. Autumn is definitely showing out, and I’m bothered. Now according to my almanac, the seasons were supposed to begin changing on September 23. If you’re reading this, you very well know that we’ve stepped into October. Some of you all may already be carving pumpkins and watching scary movies, but I’m in Alabama, and I’m STILL waiting.

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This past weekend, Huntsville was a host for multiple events. Special shout out to my alma mater, Alabama A&M, for snagging the win for homecoming. People came out from everywhere this weekend to participate in what the city had to offer. And… so did the sun, y’all! Coming in at a whopping 97 degrees. Whew chile.

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You guys, I was sweating bullets! The heat knocked me off my feet, and knocked my wig off my head. Literally. Before homecoming started, there was a street festival held in Madison, AL. Beautiful event by the way. But the sun was so draining, that I was too exhausted to continue on in anymore daytime homecoming activities. I missed that jet.

Strangely enough, the weather made a drastic change the Monday AFTER homecoming. See y’all, fashionably late. There was a consistent rain fall with a temperature around 65 degrees for the day. My wig and I were no longer in harms way. Now here comes the tricky part; the weather in Alabama is unlike any other. It’s truly an experience, as it has a mind of its own. Especially here in Huntsville. The weather may change from snowing, to sunny, to rainy, and that’s all in one day folks! Ain’t nobody got time for that!

I’m really counting on the weather to pick a side and stay there. But knowing the weather here in Huntsville, I won’t put my bottom dollar on it. Y’all keep me and my wig in your thoughts as we try to make it through this fall season.

Where are you guys reading from? If the weather is nice, I would LOVE to come!