What College Didn’t Teach You: The Post-Graduation Journey

College may have been the best time of your life, or it could have been one of your biggest challenges to date. You met some really cool people along the way, and yet, there were those who you also had to leave behind. This day didn’t come by surprise! You dedicated your time and hard work FOR YEARS, and today is the last day of your college career. You hair is laid for life, or your haircut is on fleek (hey fellas!) Numerous clips of you shaking the hand of your institution’s president, in exchange for that incredibly expensive piece of paper, have played in your head repeatedly. Everything up to this moment has unfolded exactly how you planned. Your tassel has now been moved from right to left. Your degree is secured, and you’re free to party until the sun comes back up. The sun just came up… so now what?

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Maybe you will go back to school? More degrees, more money, or so they say. I’m still doing research on that. There are those of us who will be gainfully employed only days after graduation. (Pat yourself on the back, great job!) There will even be a select few of us who will get to travel abroad, and indulge in perfect freedom before having to dive into the real world of adulting. And then finally, there are those of you like myself: young and just trying to figure things out.

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Up until about 30 seconds before I graduated, I felt like I had everything under control. I have always been the person who operates according to plan. And then college graduation approached, and every plan went out the window. My job at the time was paying me pretty decent, and even though it wasn’t in my field, I stayed with it for a while. I didn’t have a solid next move.

I told my parents approaching graduation that I just wanted to be genuinely happy and financially stable no matter what I did next. There were a lot of days that I was mentally unhealthy during the end of my senior year, and I feel that at this time, living my best semi-unstructured life is working for me. Reaching a higher place in life is a top priority, and I am still actively looking for jobs in my field. I am also chasing my dreams by hosting this blog as well as a podcast. As of now I’m happy. Working towards building a greater financial stability. But happy. And eventually, I will land that job. Speak things into existence kids, it works.

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You see, kids, college prepares you for many, many things. We learn lessons about our future occupations, while gaining a comprehensive outlook on this well-rounded education. But no amount of school work will prepare you for the real life lessons you get from college. All the math equations in the world couldn’t help you figure out why you’re short on the rent this month. Or why all of those sure fire resume building tips still haven’t landed you a job yet.

College taught me to never give up. Ever. So what you don’t have that office job you set your heart on. Or the internship you held each summer didn’t land you the job you thought would surely be yours. No testimony without a test right? You have so much life to live. And when it feels like you haven’t done enough, just remember you haven’t been grown long enough yet. Keep swimming.

Alexis Crawford: May You Rest In Peace

My heart is really hurting to write this post. First and foremost, rest in heaven to such a beautiful soul, Alexis Crawford. Although I did not know this young woman personally, she could have easily been me. Any life taken, especially one taken with malicious intent, is a life gone too soon.

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Earlier this week, I posted to my social media accounts that Alexis, 21 and a student of Clark Atlanta University, had been reported missing. According to the Atlanta Police Department, on October 27, Alexis filed a police report against her roommates boyfriend, Barron Brantley, 21, for making unwanted sexual advances towards her. This was only three days before her disappearance on October 30. Just short of a week later, her body was found in a park in DeKalb County. Both the roommate, and the roommates boyfriend, are now being held as the primary suspects in this case.

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I think we can all piece together what happened here, and that alone makes this even sadder. Police Chief, Erika Shields, provided information that not only were the two girls roommates, but they were also good friends. Her name is Jordyn Jones, and reportedly was the last person to see Alexis alive. She was also listed as a witness on the police report.

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My spirit is really troubled by an article I read, going further into detail about how all of this connects. You see, not only did Alexis experience these unwanted advances from the boyfriend, but she claimed to black out, and couldn’t remember what happened to her after Brantley followed her into her bedroom. Jones later saw Brantley standing shirtless, after repeatedly knocking on the bedroom door. He claims the two did not have sex.

Although the Atlanta Police Department did not specifically clarify, it was stated that either Jones or Brantley led them directly to where the body was. As of today, Brantley has been arrested, and charged with murder. Jones, 21, has a warrant out for her arrest, and is expected to be charged with murder as well. Sources say they think Jones has possibly fled Atlanta. This is a developing story, so more details will be sure to follow. Please keep this family, as well as the student body of Clark Atlanta University uplifted in this time of grief.